"Humans, in our view, are often obsessed with vows. Whether we're talking about priestly vows, marriage vows, patriotic vows, etc., it doesn't matter.
"Vows are, as John said, unrealistic, especially if you live a life many years long. You change and grow through those years -- as you should, as your higher selves intended when you incarnated.
"That is a good thing. After all, you cannot not grow. You can choose how to grow -- through joyful experiences or painful experiences. But you cannot stand still.
"So to impose upon yourselves or others vows (of whatever -- celibacy, fidelity, obedience, poverty, patriotism, etc.) is simply not a good idea.
"Instead we would propose setting realistic expectations for yourselves, acknowledging you will grow and change continuously throughout your lives.
"When you get married or become a priest or anything else, you certainly have great intentions to make it the very best experience you can. We applaud that.
"But do you expect also you will never change? If you do, that is not only unrealistic and shortsighted, but it simply does not fit with how your human lives always "play out," if you will.
"Friends, we've often said "Live in the moment." That's all you have. Your human minds do not know where you will be ten years from now, or fifty, or more. All your power is now. And only now.
"So to impose vows and promises on yourselves is to deny you will change and grow. You can deny it, but you cannot avoid it.
"Live fully in every present moment. Do not tarnish your joy with unrealistic expectations. Vows and other long-term contracts, if you will, are simply not part of who you really are.
"Who you really are is God. God needs no restrictions, goals, or anything else that limit your growth.
"You are God. You are Joy. Live in the full awareness of that every moment of the rest of your lives."
Chief Joseph, through John Cali.
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